Restore Your Home, Restore Your Spirit!
One week in and I feel like I’m not accomplishing enough. There is still so much to do. It seems like I won’t be able to do it all unless I have each day mapped out to perfection. I’ve been focusing on what isn’t done, what I still need to do and what I can do that will help; to do lists, strategic plans, mapping out steps, time tables to calculate how to do it - and all in 100 days!
While time management is important to ensure no time is wasted on the unimportant or on things that aren’t on my priority list or Top 10 Zen list, as I call it, focusing too much just makes me feel anxious and overwhelmed. This is probably what sent me to the chiropractors office yesterday with a pain in my brain! I knew there had to be a solution to prevent my head from exploding.
I picked up a book in the waiting room, which I accidentally walked out with, but that’s another story. It said my sensory overload has a name. It’s DAF, directed attention fatigue. My capacity to direct attention is fatigued. The demand for my new concentration in the face of pre-existing internal and external distractions, otherwise known as life, is fatiguing my attention system. The solution, shift my focus. The tendency is to down shift and veg out or to stop and quit. Not necessary. Shifting focus can be as easy as going outside and becoming one with nature, looking out a window or even at a photograph of the great outdoors.
I thought about what else I could focus on to feel better. How about the positive? How about what I do accomplish? When I started my first business I kept a notebook where I wrote down what I got done each month. I was a flight attendant, so I had a full time job that took me out of town. I didn’t have 40 hours a week to work on my new business idea. I had to squeeze it in during time off. It seemed like a slow process but when I checked things off my “to do” list, I logged them into that notebook. Then when I felt like things weren’t moving, I could look at the book and see the reality of things accomplished.
In one week I’ve gone live with a new website, shot video for two stories, written everyday, including the weekend, uploaded stuff to Facebook, gained a few followers and learned a lot. Oh, and I haven’t gained any weight or lost any money!
One of the most important jobs of a coach is to point out all the good plays, as well as celebrate all the wins. We live in an instant gratification society and the media frequently showcases what appear to be overnight success stories. What we forget is that the media doesn’t always show real life or a full picture. Weather it’s baby steps or two steps forward and one step back, it’s still ultimately moving in the right direction.
Easy does it. Shift happens. Or at least shifting can make you feel relief!
Shift your focus to nature or something positive.
Somewhere over the rainbow
Skies are blue,
And the dreams that you dare to dream
Really do come true.....